By Dr. Rubina Tahir, DC, co-founder of The Positivity Charge
Self-awareness can only be discovered when you allow yourself time to get to know – YOU! This is true even during the hectic holiday season! ME time is top of the list when it comes to holiday survival. We already spend most of our days catering to others’ demands, getting to know other people’s personalities, preferences, and distastes, but what about our own? Shakespeare told us in his famous Hamlet, “To thine own self be true,” but that can’t happen unless we take the time to get to know who we really are.
If we don’t know ourselves we can’t be authentic, and we will have a hard time discovering what our passions are – which always lead us to our specific purpose in life. This purpose is always as unique as a snowflake or a single grain of sand on a beach. That purpose is eager to find you – when you find yourself! Here are five unique ways to find some me time to get the 2018 process started:
Art, music, dance and other creative endeavors always teach us more about ourselves. There is a special relationship we have with our true self when we are in a creative mindset. The left-brained, critical, egoic-self (which isn’t your true self) is silenced when we are engaged in creating or experiencing beauty. Make a gingerbread house with your family this year, have a family dance off, or play charades! Make sure that whatever activity you choose to do, makes you feel alive, and happy. This will bring you closer to your true self.
Spend Time in Nature
The hectic, holiday world does not promote us acting and living within our natural biorhythms. This can make it very difficult to get in touch with our own personal passions. We are far too often stressed out, hurried, and frazzled. This causes stress-based thinking. We start to act from a survival mode, instead of being quiet and still, like a tree growing in the forest, or the seasons moving from Summer to Fall and Winter. When we step into nature, we give ourselves permission to move slowly, and think deeply. All outdoor spaces are perfect places to spend a little me-time. It can be as simple as stepping out to take a walk around the block.
Write in a Journal
For the same reasons we may not make it a priority to spend time in nature, we don’t always see the value of writing down our innermost thoughts in a journal. Or bring one with us when we are travelling over the holidays. There is a literal treasure trove of insight into yourself that will arise if you just start writing, without judging what comes out, for ten minutes every day. Julia Cameron suggests this practice in her best-selling book, The Artist’s Way, but the technique has been used for centuries as a form of self-inquiry. 10 minutes during the holidays is a realistic date to make with yourself.
Disconnect from Technology
Our minds and hearts are constantly influenced by by the words and images we see on social media. During the holidays there are so many distractions that pull us away from technology. This change in stimulus is a great way to reboot your brain and have a fresh slate! Simply by turning off the television, our cell phones, and yes, even our computers from time to time, we can simply ‘remember’ who we really are.
Did you know that by taking ten deep, belly breaths, you start to slow down your over-stressed brain, and get in touch with the ‘real’ you? You can practice this exercise anywhere, and at anytime. In your car, on a plane, or even after you indulge in some holiday treats. If you need a little me time, and you are seriously over-scheduled, this can be one of the best ways to get it in small doses.